6 Reasons Why You Need To Be Touched!

Do you ever feel like you're living in a bubble, surrounded by people but never touched?
 
We live in such a busy, crowded world, yet it's so easy for many of us to go days, even weeks or months without touching or being touched by others.

 

While you might not notice the effects of not being touched right away, it can negatively affect your mood, your confidence  and your health. We are only beginning to understand the holistic way our bodies work and the relationship between our emotional well being and our physical health.

 

Here are 6 reasons why you need to be touched on a regular basis.
 
1. Feel connected to others. We are social beings, and although we all fall in different places on the introversion – extroversion scale, we all need to have that sense of connection to other members of our tribe. While some of that connection can come from having conversations with others, touch also plays an important role in human communication.

 

2. Reduce anxiety. Simply touching another person can make us feel more secure and less anxious. It can make us feel grounded and safe and not so all alone. It's not just children who could use a warm, reassuring hug to make things a little better, so if you're feeling like a bundle of nerves, go ahead and ask for a hug.

 

3. Bonding. Touch is one of the ways romantic partners bond with each other and parents bond with their children. When partners and families get busy and let touch go out the window, they'll often find that they don't feel as close and relationships suffer. Regular touch is one of the ways that we continually renew our bonds with those we love.

 

4. Lowers your blood pressure. Studies have shown that those that get regular touch often have lower blood pressure than those that don't. Even having a pet can have beneficial effects! Touch can also slow the heart rate and help speed recovery times from illness and surgery.

 

5. Improve your outlook. It's harder to get into a pessimistic funk when you feel the confidence of being connected to others. Touch can make people feel more optimistic and positive and less cynical and suspicious. A positive, trusting attitude towards others can reduce tension in our daily lives and improve our relationships.

 

6. Give us the sensory input that we crave. Scientists are just discovering how truly important it is to exercise all our physical senses for proper brain and emotional development. All the various kinds of touch from butterfly kisses to deep tissue massage send our brains the physical inputs it needs to make sense of the world. So, along with touching other people and pets, make time to explore different textures and touch sensations such as letting cool sand run through your fingers or taking a warm relaxing bath.
 
Don't let yourself get too busy that you starve yourself of touch. It's important for your physical, mental and emotional well being to touch others and let others touch you. 
 
Received from: Jay Magh. [Special Thanks]

Visit to The Gold Toastmasters Club!

Last night I went to "The Gold Toastmasters Club" in Malaz. It was such a wonderful visit and I was very inspired with the warm welcome and generosity of the members. Though it was the first toastmasters club I ever visited where the language was Arabic and I was unable to understand the meeting. But, the best thing I liked about the prepared speaker "Majid" was his body language and gestures and the voice modulation. I was trying to catch the words he was saying and trying to make a story in my mind and I think I was successful upto some extent. He shared the story of a father, whose small daughters were stuck in a building and that caught fire... It was midnight and there was no light... so, they were facing two problems: 1st problem was darkness and the second problem was smoke..... I dont know what happened next.

 

I really loved the people and the environment and will visit them again [when I will learn more arabic]... Thanks guys.

tera kehna hai!

ترا کہنا ہے
''مجھ کو خالقِ کون ومکاں نے
کِتنی ڈھیروں نعمتیں دی ہیں
مری آنکھوں میں گہری شام کا دامن کشاں جادو
مری باتوں میں اُجلے موسموں کی گُل فشاں خوشبو
مرے لہجے کی نرمی موجہ گل نے تراشی ہے
مرے الفاظ پر قوسِ قزح کی رنگ پاشی ہے
مرے ہونٹوں میں ڈیزی کے گلابی پُھولوں کی رنگت
مرے رُخسار پر گلنار شاموں کی جواں حِدّت
مرے ہاتھوں میں پنکھڑیوں کی شبنم لمس 
نرمی ہے
مرے بالوں میں برساتوں کی راتیں اپنا رستہ بُھول جاتی ہیں
میں جب دھیمے سُروں میں گیت گاتی ہوں
تو ساحل کی ہوائیں
اَدھ کھلے ہونٹوں میں ،
پیاسے گیت لے کرسایہ گُل میں سمٹ کر بیٹھ جاتی ہیں
مرا فن سوچ کو تصویر دیتا ہے
میں حرفوں کو نیا چہرہ
تو چہروں کو حروفِ نوکارشتہ نذرکرتی ہوں
زباں تخلیق کرتی ہوں۔''

ترا کہنا مجھے تسلیم ہے
میں مانتی ہوںاُس نے میری ذات کو بے حد نوازا ہے
خدائے برگ وگل کے سامنےمیں بھی دُعا میں ہوں
،سراپا شکر ہوںاُس نے مجھے اِتنا بہت کُچھ دے دیا، 
لیکن
تجھے دے دے تو میں جانوں‬

A Public Service Message! [for ladies]

Please read It May save your life or someone else
 
Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or a loved one's life.
  
In daylight hours, refresh yourself
of these things to do
in an emergency situation...
This is for you,
and for you to share
with your wife,
your children,
everyone you know.
After reading these 9 crucial tips,
forward them to someone you care about.
It never hurts to be careful
in this crazy world we live in.
 
1. Tip from  Tae Kwon Do :
The elbow is the strongest point
on your body.
If you are close enough to use it, do!
 
2.. Learned this from a tourist guide.
If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse,
DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM.
Toss it away from you....
Chances are that he is more interested
in your wallet and/or purse than you,
and he will go for the wallet/purse.
RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
 
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car,
kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole
and start waving like crazy..
The driver won't see you, but everybody else will.
This has saved lives.
 
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars
after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit
(doing their chequebook, or making a list, etc.
DON'T DO THIS!)
The predator will be watching you, and this
is the perfect opportunity for him to get in
on the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go.
AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR ,
LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE..
 
If someone is in the car
with a gun to your head
DO NOT DRIVE OFF,
Repeat:
DO NOT DRIVE OFF!
Instead gun the engine
and speed into anything, wrecking the car.
Your Air Bag will save you.
If the person is in the back seat
they will get the worst of it .
As soon as the car crashes
bail out and run.
It is better than having them find your body
in a remote location.
 
5. A few notes about getting
into your car in a parking lot,
or parking garage:
 
A.) Be aware:
look around you,
look into your car,
at the passenger side floor ,
and in the back seat.
 
B.) If you are parked next to a big van,
enter your car from the passenger door.
Most serial killers attack their victims
by pulling them into their vans while the women
are attempting to get into their cars.
 
C.) Look at the car
parked on the driver's side of your vehicle,
and the passenger side... If a male is sitting alone
in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back
into the mall, or work, and get a
guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
(And better paranoid than dead.)
 
6. ALWAYS take the elevator
instead of the stairs.
Stairwells are horrible places to be alone
and the perfect crime spot.
This is especially true at NIGHT!)
 
7. If the predator has a gun
and you are not under his control,
ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target)
4 in 100 times; and even then,
it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.
RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern!
 
8. As women, you are always trying
to be sympathetic:
STOP
It may get you raped, or killed.
Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well educated man, who ALWAYS played
on the sympathies of unsuspecting women.
He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often
asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle,
which is when he abducted
his next victim.
 
9. Another Safety Point:
Someone just told me that her friend heard
a crying baby on her porch the night before last,
and she called the police because it was late
and she thought it was weird.. The police told her
'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door..'
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby
had crawled near a window, and she was worried
that it would crawl to the street and get run over.
The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way,
whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'
He told her that they think a serial killer
has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax
women out of their homes thinking that someone
dropped off a baby.. He said they have not verified it,
but have had several calls by women saying that
they hear baby's cries outside their doors
when they're home alone at night.
 
10. Water scam!
If you wake up in the middle
of the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a
burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your
outside taps full ball so that you will go out to investigate and
then attack.
 
Stay alert, keep safe, and look out for your neighbours! 
 
A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle..

 

S T A Y [a true story]

S T A Y

 

A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.

 

"Your son is here," she said to the old man.

 

She had to repeat the words several times before the patient's eyes opened.

 

Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent.. He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers

 

around the old man's limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.

 

The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside the bed. All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly lighted ward, holding the old man's hand and offering him words of love and

 

strength.  Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away and rest awhile.

 

He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital - the clanking of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members

 

exchanging greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients..

 

Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.

 

Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse. While she did what she had to do, he waited.

 

Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy, but the Marine interrupted her.

 

"Who was that man?" he asked.

 

 The nurse was startled, "He was your father," she answered.

 

"No, he wasn't," the Marine replied. "I never saw him before in my life.."

 

"Then why didn't you say something when I took you to him?"

 

"I knew right away there had been a mistake, but I also knew he needed his son, and his son just wasn't here. When I realized that he was too sick to tell whether or not I was his son, knowing how much he

 

needed me, I stayed." I came here tonight to find a Mr. William Grey. His Son was Killed in Iraq today, and I was sent to inform him. What was this Gentleman's Name?

 

The Nurse with Tears in her Eyes answered, "Mr. William Grey............."

 

The next time someone needs you ....... just be there.  Stay.

 

WE ARE NOT HUMAN BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE.

 

WE ARE SPIRITUAL BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY HUMAN EXPERIENCE.

mere dil mere musafir

mere dil mere musafir
hua phir se hukm sadir
k vatan badar hon ham tum
dein gali gali sadayen
karen rukh nagar nagar ka
k surag koi payen
kisi yar-e-namabar ka
har ek ajnabi se puchen
jo pata tha apne ghar ka
sar-e-ku-e-nashanayan
hamain din se rat karna
kabhi is se bat karna
kabhi us se bat karna
tumhen kya kahun k kya hai
shab-e-gam buri bala hai
hamain ye bhi tha ganimat
jo koi shumar hota
hamain kya bura tha marna
agar ek bar hota

Hazaron Khawa'hishen aisi!

ہزاروں خواہشیں ایسی کہ ہر خواہش پہ دم نکلے
بہت نکلے مرے ارمان لیکن پھر بھی کم نکلے

ڈرے کیوں میرا قاتل؟ کیا رہے گا اُس کی گر د ن پر
وہ خوں، جو چشم تر سے عمر بھر یوں دم بہ دم نکلے؟

نکلنا خلد سے آدم کا سنتے آئے ہیں لیکن
بہت بے آبرو ہو کر ترے کوچے سے ہم نکلے

بھر م کھل جائے ظالم تیرے قامت کی درازی کا
اگر اس طرۂ پرپیچ و خم کا پیچ و خم نکلے

مگر لکھوائے کوئی اس کو خط تو ہم سے لکھوائے
ہوئی صبح اور گھر سے کان پر رکھ کر قلم نکلے

ہوئی اِس دور میں منسوب مجھ سے بادہ آشامی
پھر آیا وہ زمانہ جو جہاں میں جامِ جم نکلے

ہوئی جن سے توقع خستگی کی داد پانے کی
وہ ہم سے بھی زیادہ خستۂ تیغِ ستم نکلے

محبت میں نہیں ہے فرق جینے اور مرنے کا
اسی کو دیکھ کر جیتے ہیں جس کافر پہ دم نکلے

ذرا کر زور سینے پر کہ تیر پر ستم نکلے
جو وہ نکلے تو دل نکلے جو دل نکلے تو دم نکلے

خدا کے واسطے پردہ نہ کعبہ سے اٹھا ظالم
کہیں ایسا نہ ہو یاں بھی وہی کافر صنم نکلے

کہاں میخانے کا دروازہ غالب! اور کہاں واعظ
پر اِتنا جانتے ہیں، کل وہ جاتا تھا کہ ہم نکلے

Har ek baat pe Kehtay ho tum ke tu kya hai!

ہر ایک بات پہ کہتے ہو تم کہ تو کیا ہے
تمہیں کہو کہ یہ اندازِ گفتگو کیا ہے

نہ شعلے میں یہ کرشمہ نہ برق میں یہ ادا
کوئی بتاؤ کہ وہ شوخِ تند خو کیا ہے

یہ رشک ہے کہ وہ ہوتا ہے ہم سخن تم سے
وگرنہ خوفِ بد آموزیِ عدو کیا ہے

چپک رہا ہے بدن پر لہو سے پیراہن
ہمارے جَیب کو اب حاجتِ رفو کیا ہے

جلا ہے جسم جہاں، دل بھی جل گیا ہوگا
کریدتے ہو جو اب راکھ جستجو کیا ہے

رگوں میں دوڑتے پھرنے کے ہم نہیں قائل
جب آنکھ سے ہی* نہ ٹپکا تو پھر لہو کیا ہے

وہ چیز جس کے لیے ہم کو ہو بہشت عزیز
سواۓ بادۂ گلفامِ مشک بو کیا ہے

پیوں شراب اگر خم بھی دیکھ لوں دو چار
یہ شیشہ و قدح و کوزہ و سبو کیا ہے

رہی نہ طاقتِ گفتار اور اگر ہو بھی
تو کس امید پہ کہیے کہ آرزو کیا ہے

ہوا ہے شہ کا مصاحب پھرے ہے اتراتا
وگرنہ شہر میں غالب کی آبرو کیا ہے

Ka'ba kis Mu se Jaao ge Ghalib!

کوئی امّید بر نہیں آتی
کوئی صورت نظر نہیں آتی

موت کا ایک دن معین ھے
نیند کیوں رات بھر نہیں آتی؟

آگے آتی تھی حال دل پہ ہنسی
اب کسی بات پر نہیں آتی

جانتا ہوں ثوابِ طاعت و زہد
پر طبعیت ادھر نہیں آتی

ہے کچھ ایسی ہی بات جو چپ ہوں
ورنہ کیا بات کر نہیں آتی

کیوں نہ چیخوں کہ یاد کرتے ہیں
میری آواز گر نہیں آتی

داغِ دل گر نظر نہیں آتا
بو بھی اے چارہ گر نہیں آتی

ہم وہاں ہیں جہاں سے ہم کو بھی
کچھ ہماری خبر نہیں آتی

مرتے ہیں آرزو میں مرنے کی
موت آتی ہے پر نہیں آتی

کعبے کس منہ سے جاؤ گے غالب
شرم تم کو مگر نہیں آتی

 

Koi Din!

کوئی دن گر زندگانی اور ہے
اپنے جی میں ہم نے ٹھانی اور ہے

آتشِ دوزخ میں یہ گرمی کہاں
سوزِ غم ہاۓ نہانی اور ہے

بارہا دیکھی ہیں ان کی رنجشیں
پر کچھ اب کے سر گرانی اور ہے

دے کے خط منہ دیکھتا ہے نامہ بر
کچھ تو پیغامِ زبانی اور ہے

قاطعِ اعمار ہیں اکثر نجوم
وہ بلاۓ آسمانی اور ہے

ہو چکیں غالب بلائیں سب تمام
ایک مرگِ ناگہانی اور ہے