Saturday, December 18, 2010
Some great tips on love and relationships by kids between the age of 5 and 10...
You are Strong.
How To Succeed
- Don't talk negatively about people behind their backs. If you gossip, people won't confide in you.
- Mind your own business.
- Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers. You'll learn more in a year than 4 years of college.
- Successful bosses have good communication skills.
- They learn from people, including their employees.
- Work in such a way that makes your boss look good.
- It's not flattery On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends.
- Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.
- Dress for the job you want, not the one you have.
- Let your dress reflect professionalism.
- Workout to get in good physical shape.
- Unless exceptionally skilled, the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage.
- Personal integrity is crucial.
- Tell nothing but the truth.
- Bosses can forgive mistakes but if you lie, you're gone
- Be on time. Try to arrive few minutes early. It saves you from stress. You'll be much relaxed & work better Strive your best to keep a deadline.
- If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension
- Don't take things personally. If some people are unhappy with you, it's their problem. But always strive to give your best. If you must correct someone, don't get personal about it. Do it never in front of others
- Spend some time alone everyday. What's the mission of my life? What do I want to be? And how to go about it. As you move along Plan A of your career, maintain a Plan B as well — an alternative course to rely
- Always remember that the secret of success is passion.
Monday, December 13, 2010
How to make a woman happy?
How to keep a woman happy.... Priceless!
It ' s not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:
2. A companion
3. A lover
4. A brother
5. A father
6. A master
7. A chef
8. An electrician
9. A carpenter
10. A plumber
11. A mechanic
12. A decorator
13. A stylist
14. A sexologist
15. A gynecologist
16. A psychologist
17. A pest exterminator
18. A psychiatrist
19. A healer
20. A good listener
21. An organizer
22. A good father
23. Very clean
24. Sympathetic
25. Athletic
26. Warm
27. Attentive
28. Gallant
29. Intelligent
30. Funny
31. Creative
32. Tender
33. Strong
34. Understanding
35. Tolerant
36. Prudent
37. Ambitious
38. Capable
39. Courageous
40. Determined
41. True
42. Dependable
43. Passionate
44. Compassionate
46. Love shopping
47. Be honest
48. Be very rich
49. Not stress her out
50. Not look at other girls
52. Give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. Give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes
Just One Step Away!
Authentically confident. You are one thought away from
Stepping powerfully, effectively and decisively in the
Direction of your dreams.
With just one positive, empowering thought, you can turn
Toward achievement, toward excellence, toward discipline and
Commitment. From nothing more than a thought that resonates
With your true purpose, you can change your perception of
The whole world.
Reach into the place within, where you nurture your vision
Of the very best life you can imagine. With all you have,
With all you are, feel the beautiful reality of that vision.
And know that whatever you can imagine, whatever you can
Feel, you can create. In fact, it already exists within you.
Feel within yourself the reality of life as you know it can
Be. Then, with your words, your actions, your priorities and
Commitments, with your focus and discipline, express that
Beautiful, meaningful value.
In every moment, in every circumstance, through every
Challenge, let that immense value flow out from you. It is
Never more than just one thought away.
The Secret of Happiness!
Fear is like a toxin that runs through much of our thinking.
It feeds on insecurity, feeling of loss, loneliness,
inadequacy and attachment.
You are loveable and loving. Accept this as Truth.
Appreciate and care for yourself - truly, deeply, intensely,
in a way that reflects your real value.
Then you will automatically have the same regards
for all other living beings and things.
It will be Fun!
which you're reluctant to undertake?
Or is there something which you're positively dreading?
Perhaps it is a project you've been putting off, or a phone call
you must make, or a meeting you need to attend.
Think of what you need to do and tell yourself, "this will be fun!"
It sounds crazy, but it can really make a difference.
As soon as you say "this will be fun"
your mind starts looking for ways to justify that statement.
Actually, you simply don't know in advance how it will be,
because you cannot experience the future.
So your impressions of the dreaded action, whatever it is,
are formed mainly by the way you talk to yourself about it.
If you tell yourself "this will be horrible" it probably will be
horrible, simply because you've convinced yourself beforehand.
Do you really want to have a horrible experience? Of course not.
So tell yourself that "this will be fun" and it just might be. It won't hurt.
It could help. It will get you up and moving in the right direction.
"This will be fun!"
The Sweet Revenge
The downtown luxury apartment was in his name and he wanted to remain there with his new love so he asked the wife to move out and then he would buy her another place.
The wife agreed to this, but asked that she be given 3 days on her own there, to pack up her things.
While he was gone, the first day she lovingly put her personal belongings into boxes and crates and suitcases.
On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things.
On the third day, she sat down for the last time at their candlelit Dining table, soft music playing in the background, and feasted on a pound of shrimp and a bottle of Chardonnay.
When she had finished, she went into each room and deposited a few of the resulting shrimp shells into the hollow of the curtain rods. She then cleaned up the kitchen and left.
The husband came back, with his new girl, and all was bliss for the first few days. Then it started, slowly but surely. Clueless, the man could not explain why the place smelled so bad.
They tried everything; cleaned &mopped and aired the place out. Vents were checked for dead rodents, carpets were steam cleaned, Air fresheners were hung everywhere. Exterminators were brought in; the carpets were replaced, and on it went.
Finally, they could take it no more and decided to move. The Moving Company arrived and did a very professional packing job, taking everything to their new home; including the curtain rods.
Public Speaking: 10 Tips to Improve Public Speaking Skills
Public Speaking: 10 Tips to Improve Public Speaking Skills
When I ask my audiences their number one challenge with public speaking, they overwhelmingly say, "to overcome the fear of public speaking." It's okay to have "butterflies." The key is how to get them organized, focused and flying in formation. Here are 10 tips for delivering a more powerful, persuasive presentation. Practice these techniques consistently to improve public speaking skills.
1. 95% of your success is determined before the presentation. Your audience will know if you didn't rehearse. Rehearsing, or "rehearing" yourself minimizes 75% of your nervousness. Rehearse standing up, or better yet, ask someone to videotape you. The camera will be your most objective ally. The more comfortable you become with your material via rehearsing, the more comfortable you will be with your body language.
2. Either memorize or "know cold" your opener and close. Two minutes each for an opener and a close is enough. The most important thing your audience will remember is your closing. Second most important thing they'll remember is your opener. Start with something attention grabbing, like a quote or statistic, which relates to your topic. Never start with, "Good Morning." It is obvious and boring.
3. Public Speaking: 24 hours before your presentation:
A. Have a quiet dinner with a quiet friend. (This may or may not be your spouse!) You won't be as concerned about your public speaking skills if you can put your nervous system on glide.
B. The evening before, put your presentation on audiocassette as background noise one hour before retiring. Listen to your opener and close before bedtime as a review.
C. No massive changes 24 hours before. Nothing increases the fear of public speaking more than rewritting your material at the last minute. Impromptu speeches notwithstanding.
D. Visualize your presentation going smoothly and successfully. All Olympic athletes use this technique, and it works with public speaking as well.
E. Review your notes and visual aids the evening before. Your notes should only be "fast food for the eyes" in bullet form, and are NEVER read to the audience.
F. Eat a good high protein breakfast the morning of your presentation. Even if you're not speaking until that evening, feed your mind and body the proper fuel.
4. Before your presentation, check yourself in a full-length mirror. A dear friend of mine forgot to do this. During her keynote speech in front of hundreds, someone quietly pointed out that her skirt was tucked into her pantyhose!
5. Public speaking and purpose: When organizing your talk, define your purpose. Why are you there? Why are they there? Is this a sales presentation? A community watch group? If you present technical information, is this an information/knowledge transfer or a decision briefing? When presenting technical information make certain not to overload your audience with too much detail, or too much on each slide. Tailor your message. Define your objective.
6. Know your audience before designing your opener and close. It is imperative that you "speak the language" of your audience. What are their ages? Percentage of males/females? Are they highly technical or non-technical? Do they want to be there or is this mandatory? What are their expectations? If you are a scientist or engineer, speak to the "lowest common denominator." Technical presenters have a propensity to use a lot of technical jargon. Does the person in charge of funding understand the language?
7. Avoid using too many slides. Visual aids are wonderful tools as long as they're used to enhance the information. A common mistake is using the visual aids as the presentation. Look at the audience frequently to establish rapport and a connection. In almost every presentation, you are there to "sell" them not simply "tell" them. Do not look at your visual aids other than a quick glance, and never read them. Never turn your back on the audience to read slides. They will not look at your slides. Their minds will start to wander. Remember, you are your own best visual aid.
8. Good public speaking skills mean being prepared. As the saying goes, prior planning prevents predictably poor performance. Planning and preparation will reduce nervousness 75%. Again, your audience will know if you didn't rehearse. Consider hiring a public speaking coach. The dollars invested may well be worth their weight in gold.
9. The Q & A period and how to handle a hostile audience. The second most frequent comment I hear in my public speaking seminars is "What if they ask a question and I don't know the answer?" Or, "What if someone in the audience is a know-it-all and doesn't like me?" Avoid being argumentative. If you don't know the answer, ask if someone in the audience has the answer. Or, simply let them know when you will get back to them. Make certain you do. When you lie you die. It destroys your credibility.
10. Variety and venue. Variety serves as a "wake up call" to your audience. Examples of adding variety: humor, relevant stories, quotes, voice inflection, paired and group activities, pauses, audience participation in the question and answer period, and slides or other multimedia. As for your venue, are your visual aids appropriate to your size of audience? Will everyone be able to see them?
Lastly, make sure to confirm the time, date, and place with the appropriate contact person. If possible, arrange to see the room ahead of time so you can practice visualizing in the exact location of your presentation. At the minimum, arrive at least one hour ahead of time. To improve public speaking skills, and overcome nervousness, nothing works like being prepared.
Copyright 2006 Colleen Kettenhofen
Colleen Kettenhofen is a motivational speaker, workplace expert, & co-author of "The Masters of Success," as featured on the Today Show, along with Ken Blanchard and Jack Canfield. http://www.ColleenSpeaks.com Topics: leadership, management, difficult people, success, public speaking. To order the book, or for free articles and newsletter visit http://www.ColleenSpeaks.com You are free to reprint or repost this information provided Colleen Kettenhofen's name and website is provided with the article.
مُنافع کا سودا
مُنافع کا سودا
سرکارِ دو عالم حضرت محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم اپنے صحابہ کرام رضی اللہ تعالٰی عنہما کے درمیان تشریف فرما تھے کہ ایک یتیم جوان شکایت لیئے حاضر خدمت ہوا۔ کہنے لگا یا رسول اللہ؛ میں اپنی کھجوروں کے باغ کے ارد گرد دیوار تعمیر کرا رہا تھا کہ میرے ہمسائے کی کھجور کا ایک درخت دیوار کے درمیان میں آ گیا۔ میں نے اپنے ہمسائے سے درخواست کی کہ وہ اپنی کھجور کا درخت میرے لیئے چھوڑ دے تاکہ میں اپنی دیوار سیدھی بنوا سکوں، اُس نے دینے سے انکار کیا تو میں نے اُس کھجور کے درخت کو خریدنے کی پیشکس کر ڈالی، میرے ہمسائے نے مجھے کھجور کا درخت بیچنے سے بھی انکار کر دیا ہے۔
سرکار صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اُس نوجوان کے ہمسائے کو بلا بھیجا۔ ہمسایہ حاضر ہوا تو آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اُسے نوجوان کی شکایت سُنائی جسے اُس نے تسلیم کیا کہ واقعتا ایسا ہی ہوا ہے۔ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اُسے فرمایا کہ تم اپنی کھجور کا درخت اِس نوجوان کیلئے چھوڑ دو یا اُس درخت کو نوجوان کے ہاتھوں فروخت کر دو اور قیمت لے لو۔ اُس آدمی نے دونوں حالتوں میں انکار کیا۔
آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اپنی بات کو ایک بار پھر دہرایا؛ کھجور کا درخت اِس نوجوان کو فروخت کر کے پیسے بھی وصول کر لو اور تمہیں جنت میں بھی ایک عظیم الشان کھجور کا درخت ملے گا جِس کے سائے کی طوالت میں سوار سو سال تک چلتا رہے گا۔
دُنیا کےایک درخت کے بدلے میں جنت میں ایک درخت کی پیشکش ایسی عظیم تھی جسکو سُن کر مجلس میں موجود سارے صحابہ کرام رضی اللہ عنہما دنگ رہ گئے۔ سب یہی سوچ رہے تھے کہ ایسا شخص جو جنت میں ایسے عظیم الشان درخت کا مالک ہو کیسے جنت سے محروم ہو کر دوزخ میں جائے گا۔ مگر وائے قسمت کہ دنیاوی مال و متاع کی لالچ اور طمع آڑے آ گئی اور اُس شخص نے اپنا کھجور کا درخت بیچنے سے انکار کردیا۔
مجلس میں موجود ایک صحابی (ابا الدحداح) آگے بڑھے اور حضور اکرم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم سے عرض کی، یا رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم، اگر میں کسی طرح وہ درخت خرید کر اِس نوجوان کو دیدوں تو کیا مجھے جنت کا وہ درخت ملے گا؟ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے جواب دیا ہاں تمہیں وہ درخت ملے گا۔
ابا الدحداح اُس آدمی کی طرف پلٹے اور اُس سے پوچھا میرے کھجوروں کے باغ کو جانتے ہو؟ اُس آدمی نے فورا جواب دیا؛ جی کیوں نہیں، مدینے کا کونسا ایسا شخص ہے جو اباالدحداح کے چھ سو کھجوروں کے باغ کو نہ جانتا ہو، ایسا باغ جس کے اندر ہی ایک محل تعمیر کیا گیا ہے، باغ میں میٹھے پانی کا ایک کنواں اور باغ کے ارد گرد تعمیر خوبصورت اور نمایاں دیوار دور سے ہی نظر آتی ہے۔ مدینہ کے سارے تاجر تیرے باغ کی اعلٰی اقسام کی کھجوروں کو کھانے اور خریدنے کے انتطار میں رہتے ہیں۔
ابالداحداح نے اُس شخص کی بات کو مکمل ہونے پر کہا، تو پھر کیا تم اپنے اُس کھجور کے ایک درخت کو میرے سارے باغ، محل، کنویں اور اُس خوبصورت دیوار کے بدلے میں فروخت کرتے ہو؟
اُس شخص نے غیر یقینی سے سرکارِ دوعالم کی طرف دیکھا کہ کیا عقل مانتی ہے کہ ایک کھجور کے بدلے میں اُسے ابالداحداح کے چھ سو کھجوروں کے باغ کا قبضہ بھی مِل پائے گا کہ نہیں؟ معاملہ تو ہر لحاظ سے فائدہ مند نظر آ رہا تھا۔ حضور پاک صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم اور مجلس میں موجود صحابہ کرام رضی اللہ عنہما نے گواہی دی اور معاملہ طے پا گیا۔
ابالداحداح نے خوشی سے حضور اکرم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کو دیکھا اور سوال کیا؛ یا رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ، جنت میں میرا ایک کھجور کا درخت پکا ہو گیا ناں؟
آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا نہیں۔ ابالدحداح سرکار صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کے جواب سے حیرت زدہ سے ہوئے۔ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اپنی بات کو مکمل کرتے ہوئے جو کچھ فرمایا اُس کا مفہوم یوں بنتا ہے کہ؛ اللہ رب العزت نے تو جنت میں ایک درخت محض ایک درخت کے بدلے میں دینا تھا۔ تم نے تو اپنا پورا باغ ہی دیدیا۔ اللہ رب العزت جود و کرم میں بے مثال ہیں اُنہوں نے تجھے جنت میں کھجوروں کے اتنے باغات عطاء کیئے ہیں کثرت کی بنا پر جنکے درختوں کی گنتی بھی نہیں کی جا سکتی۔ ابالدحداح، میں تجھے پھل سے لدے ہوئے اُن درختوں کی کسقدر تعریف بیان کروں؟ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم اپنی اِس بات کو اسقدر دہراتے رہے کہ محفل میں موجود ہر شخص یہ حسرت کرنے لگا اے کاش وہ ابالداحداح ہوتا۔
ابالداحداح وہاں سے اُٹھ کر جب اپنے گھر کو لوٹے تو خوشی کو چُھپا نہ پا رہے تھے۔ گھر کے باہر سے ہی اپنی بیوی کو آواز دی کہ میں نے چار دیواری سمیت یہ باغ، محل اور کنواں بیچ دیا ہے۔
بیوی اپنے خاوند کی کاروباری خوبیوں اور صلاحیتوں کو اچھی طرح جانتی تھی، اُس نے اپنے خاوند سے پوچھا؛ ابالداحداح کتنے میں بیچا ہے یہ سب کُچھ؟
ابالداحداح نے اپنی بیوی سے کہا کہ میں نے یہاں کا ایک درخت جنت میں لگے ایسے ایک درخت کے بدلے میں بیچا ہے جِس کے سایہ میں سوار سو سال تک چلتا رہے۔
ابالداحداح کی بیوی نے خوشی سے چلاتے ہوئے کہا؛ ابالداحداح، تو نے منافع کا سودا کیا ہے۔ ابالداحداح، تو نے منافع کا سودا کیا ہے۔
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دنیا کی قُربانی کے بدلے میں آخرت کی بھلائی یا دُنیا میں اُٹھائی گئی تھوڑی سی مشقت کے بدلے کی آخرت کی راحت۔۔۔۔ کون تیار ہے ایسے سودے کیلئے؟؟؟ زندگی کی سمت متعین کرنے کیلئے آپ سوچیئے گا ضرور۔۔۔
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